It’s one of the hardest parts of solo parenting multiple kids from different dads: the routine doesn’t routine. One child gets picked up every other weekend. Another hasn’t seen their dad in months. Maybe one dad drops in randomly, disrupting everything you’ve built. And still—you’re expected to cook, clean, parent, work, and keep your sanity. So how do you build a routine when your life is full of interruptions?You stop chasing “normal”—and build around what is. 1. Break Your Week Into Rhythm Days Instead of creating one static weekly schedule, build types of days: Design meals, chores, and expectations around these patterns. Don’t force uniformity where chaos lives. Work with…
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Shared Custody With One, Full Custody With Another—How Do I Make It All Work?
No one preps you for this kind of motherhood math. One child goes to their dad’s every other weekend. Another lives with you full time because their father’s disappeared—or only shows up when it’s convenient. You’re juggling drop-offs, emotional swings, different parenting styles, and somehow, you’re still expected to function like everything’s normal. It’s not normal. It’s a lot.And pretending otherwise just burns you out. Let’s talk about how to make it all work—realistically. 1. You Need Two Schedules—One You Share, One You Keep Start with a shared custody calendar—court-ordered or informal—whatever system keeps you on track. Then create your actual master schedule: the one that reflects how your household…
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No One Talks About This Part: What It’s Really Like Raising Kids from Different Dads
They don’t put this in the parenting books. What it feels like when each of your kids has a different last name. When school forms don’t fit your family. When the doctor’s office asks who’s the “primary parent”—and you flinch before answering. No one talks about this part. Not the emotional math of raising children who come from different stories. Not the way people scan your kids’ faces in public like they’re trying to figure something out. Not the inner noise—the guilt, the shame, the second-guessing—that doesn’t go away even when you know better. But we’re talking about it now. The Judgment You Don’t Ask For You could be doing…
