When TikTok creator Lana Wilman asked her followers to share their “most judgmental” opinions about weddings, she may not have expected such an outpouring. But that’s exactly what she got—and the internet delivered some brutally honest (and surprisingly relatable) truths.
In a video that’s racked up over a million views, people didn’t hold back about their biggest wedding guest pet peeves. From timing issues and awkward traditions to financial pressure and poor planning, this viral moment turned into an accidental focus group for modern weddings.
As someone who’s spent nearly two decades helping couples plan meaningful weddings within their means, I think there’s a lot to learn from what real guests had to say. Because let’s be honest—weddings aren’t just about the couple. They’re shared experiences. And the more thoughtful you are about your guests, the better your day will feel for everyone.
Let’s dive into some of the most common complaints—along with savvy tips on how to avoid them.
🥴 Long Speeches Before Food = Hangry Guests
One of the most common gripes? When the wedding toasts start rolling before dinner is served. Guests are often running on little more than coffee and adrenaline by the time your ceremony ends, so asking them to sit through multiple speeches before eating can test everyone’s patience.
Savvy tip: Serve food before speeches, or at least offer apps or snacks during cocktail hour. Well-fed guests are much more likely to be engaged and celebratory.
💸 Expensive Bridesmaid Expectations
Being in a wedding party often comes with financial obligations: new attire, beauty services, bachelorette trips, and gifts. Guests are growing more vocal about how overwhelming this can be—especially when it’s all expected without question or assistance.
Savvy tip: If you’re requesting a specific look or experience, consider covering costs or giving flexible, budget-friendly options. And maybe don’t expect a gift on top of everything else.
🌴 Honeymoon Fund Pressure
Honeymoon funds have become popular, but not everyone feels comfortable contributing—especially guests who are already spending money to attend. For some, it feels like being asked to pay for your vacation.
Savvy tip: When setting up your registry, include a variety of options—some traditional, some experiential, and some lower-budget. That way, guests can choose what works for them without feeling pressured.
🙋♀️ Attending Alone Feels Awkward
Guests who don’t know anyone else at your wedding may feel left out or uncomfortable, especially if they aren’t given a plus-one. Sitting through dinner solo or standing around at cocktail hour without someone to talk to isn’t exactly a party.
Savvy tip: When possible, offer plus-ones to solo guests—especially if they’re traveling from out of town or don’t know anyone else attending. It’s a small gesture that makes a big difference.
🍽️ Not Enough Food or Drinks = Bad Vibes
When guests mentioned their biggest wedding frustrations, food and drink shortages were right at the top. A light cocktail hour followed by a delayed dinner—or worse, running out of alcohol—can really sour the celebration.
Savvy tip: Focus your budget on feeding and refreshing your guests. You don’t need fancy extras if the basics are solid. People will remember how your wedding felt—not how your favors looked.
🎁 Favors That Get Tossed
While some couples love the idea of a signature wedding favor, many guests admitted they often leave them behind—or toss them after the wedding. Unless it’s something edible or practical, it’s likely to end up as clutter.
Savvy tip: If you’re doing favors, keep it simple. Think: locally made treats, mini candles, or a small donation to a meaningful cause. Or skip them entirely to save your budget.
😬 Awkward Traditions Like the Garter Toss
Some guests shared that certain traditions—like the garter toss—can feel outdated or uncomfortable to witness. Not every guest wants to watch your new spouse fish under your dress in front of grandma.
Savvy tip: If it doesn’t feel like “you,” it’s okay to let it go. Choose traditions that reflect your relationship and values—not ones that feel like obligations.
🎨 Color Code Clarity, Please
One surprisingly popular comment? Guests wanting to know what color the bridesmaids are wearing ahead of time. No one wants to show up looking like they accidentally coordinated with the wedding party.
Savvy tip: Consider sharing this info on your wedding website in your FAQ section or alongside any notes about your wedding dress code. It’s a thoughtful detail that helps guests feel confident in what they’re wearing.
💌 No Thank-You Cards? That’s a Missed Opportunity
Guests invest a lot into attending your wedding—taking time off, traveling, getting dressed up, and giving a gift. When they never hear from you again after the big day, it can feel… ungracious. A thank-you card is such a small effort that makes a huge impression.
Savvy tip: Don’t skip this step. Set aside time post-wedding to express your gratitude—it leaves a lasting positive feeling. (Get tips for writing a great thank you note here.)
Final Thoughts
Planning a wedding is deeply personal, emotional, and—let’s face it—expensive. But it’s also an opportunity to extend love and hospitality to the people who show up to celebrate you.
This viral TikTok may have started as a lighthearted prompt, but the responses offer a surprisingly meaningful takeaway: when couples plan with empathy, everyone has a better time.
So as you craft your day, remember that being budget savvy isn’t just about spending less—it’s about spending smarter. Think about the experience you’re creating, not just the aesthetics. That’s how you create a wedding people will rave about long after the last slice of cake is gone.
