Being alone and feeling lonely are two different realities. For starters, being alone is a thing that can be observed and perceived to be a fact, while being lonely cannot be detected because it can happen when you’re surrounded by people. Being alone is an external reality while being lonely is an internal reality.
Loneliness is an emotional and mental wellness issue because those who know you can surround you as they learn you are lonely and yet that still may not be the cure for your feeling lonely. Being alone is not a thing that needs a cure, it is a mere fact of observation that has nothing to do with emotional or mental wellness. It is like saying, I planted one tree in my backyard, it alone is the tree in my yard.
Master Being Alone
We have heard that human beings are social creatures, and I agree, but it is furthermore essential to learn how to be alone. This is alone wellness. How else will we know exactly who we must be in social gatherings if we do not find out in our alone time? How true are our interactions if we do not know who we are as individuals? How can we be social beings if we are not first by ourselves?
Being alone is a necessity of self-identity so that in truth you know how to socially identify. You self-discover yourself as an individual when you are alone, so you can know enough about yourself to thrive socially because you align your self-identity with appropriate social events learned from self-discovery which is most efficient, effective, and true when standing alone.
Being alone can bring up a lot of things because there are no distractions, and I believe this is why people don’t like it. But if there’s something inside you, isn’t it better to know what it is? Harboring emotional baggage will continue to leak out of your life and eventually burst into your life. Rather, be alone, let all that needs to come up be up so you can deal with it all, instead of them dealing with you as they make you a slave to them all your life. Do the pruning now: cut all that must be out from you through healing, so whatever is growing is good and healthy.
The Art (Practice) of Loneliness
It appears that a lot of people are lonely, but I’m here to ensure that those people aren’t mistakenly seeing their aloneness as loneliness because being alone is not being lonely. So if you’re lonely still, even when around people and loved ones, or have become lonely from long periods of being alone, which is different from practicing alone wellness because alone wellness is understanding that being alone is a necessity in your individual walk not accompanied by emotional and social un-wellness, then you can identify as lonely to know what you must cure.
The root of loneliness varies from person to person. Loneliness can be a result of unhealed childhood trauma that needs to heal. I can define loneliness as an over-exaggeration of being alone. In that, in an unhealthy way, one has zoomed in with a microscope into their individual-ness. Worse yet, one may have separated oneself emotionally and mentally from other people, believing that one has nothing in common with others, though all are humans in need of connection and forevermore having that in common.
As real as anything else, birthed by the negativities that have occurred in life, loneliness is a self-perceived reality. Only you have the power that enables you to feel and be lonely, as only you can disable feeling or being lonely. Healing is a major necessary part that can loose you from this internal perception. Healing your past pain and trauma is the key to creating an internal environment that is uninhabitable for loneliness.
What Aloneness and Loneliness have in common
Both aloneness and loneliness require intentional, active healing. It is in being healed from your pain that you will thrive in practicing being alone, and as a result, be uninhabitable for loneliness. And if suffering loneliness, healing your loneliness from the root, from your pain, will ensure that you are thriving in being uninhabitable for loneliness and practicing aloneness without a need for healing.
Perhaps new things can come up in your aloneness like who am I? What do I want? But these are joyful questions that must be answered sooner or later. Perhaps you have cured loneliness (a pain manifestation) as a result of being alone, and now you discern that you are depressed or insecure.
Healing the pain that manifested loneliness would have been a chain reaction to other things that you need healing from. This would mean that your healing is not yet complete. It would suggest that you have other pain points that are manifesting other pain-filled internal realities. This would be a good thing still, where you will be pruning and doing the work now so that the rest of your life is healthy and thriving.
Conquer Your Pain Or It Will Conquer You
Do not be afraid of the pain that is already inside you because you are already living with it, rather be afraid of what that pain could do to your life and well-being. As a wise person once said, Dis-ease causes disease. There is no telling what the pain you are harboring in your body and life could come out as, or where it could come out, or in what season of your life.
Ensure the best outcome of your future by healing in your present. And remember God if healing seems impossible.
Did You Enjoy this Article? Please:
Subscribe on the form below 👇
Like ❤️ and mark read posts
Comment your thoughts, topic suggestions & questions below 👇
Share with social buttons below 👇
Save blog to Favorites for easy access
–
–
Purchase my groundbreaking Book on Amazon
–
