My Journey
Hello and Welcome to my website! You see I moved to a new country at 30, full of hope and determination. But by 42, I found myself facing a divorce, raising two children on my own. It was one of the most challenging periods of my life—not just because of the divorce itself, but because of the emotional turmoil that came with it.
I was angry, filled with guilt, and constantly overreacting to things I couldn’t control. I often lashed out at those closest to me because I felt misunderstood. There was no one to guide or advise me, and the feelings of being lost consumed me.
What made it even harder was being in a foreign country where I encountered racism in ways I hadn’t experienced before. Certain jobs weren’t available to me, and I felt invisible barriers every day. Being a single mother in this environment made me feel like I was fighting a battle on two fronts: navigating life after divorce and trying to establish myself in a new country.
Through this process, I learned many valuable lessons—lessons that helped me heal, grow, and rediscover who I am. My healing journey started when I changed how I viewed my divorce. Instead of seeing it as a failure, I chose to see it as an opportunity for growth. I realized that healing begins with how we interpret our experiences and take responsibility for our future.
Now, I’m dedicated to helping other women heal from divorce, guiding them through the emotional ups and downs that come with it. I know firsthand how divorce can turn you into someone you don’t recognize, and I’m here to help you rediscover who you truly are.
Navigating Divorce, Race, and Cultural Differences
My divorce wasn’t just about the end of a marriage. I also had to navigate the racial and cultural challenges that come with marrying someone outside your race. Being married to someone who loves you deeply doesn’t always mean their family fully accepts you. As a Black woman, I faced issues that my Caucasian ex-husband couldn’t fully understand.
In my culture, children are taught to help with household chores and show respect to their elders from a young age. But in my ex-husband’s culture, parents did everything for their children. When I tried to introduce my cultural practices into our family, they were seen as foreign and unnecessary, causing tension in our parenting styles. This created a sense of disrespect from my children, leaving me feeling powerless as a mother.
These cultural differences were just one layer of the challenges we faced. Being in a predominantly white society brought its own set of struggles. When I went to job interviews or tried to establish myself professionally, I was treated differently because of my race. My ex-husband, who had never experienced racism, couldn’t fully grasp what it meant to be treated that way, and this created a gap in our understanding of each other.
Family expectations also weighed heavily on me. My family back home assumed that marrying a white man meant I had financial abundance, but that wasn’t always the case. I often found myself relying on my spouse for financial help, and while he was supportive at first, the ongoing strain affected our marriage.
On top of all this, I had the added complexity of raising a daughter from a previous relationship. She struggled to adjust to my ex-husband, and their relationship was strained. Blending our family brought its own set of challenges that I hadn’t anticipated.
The cultural differences, racial challenges, and family pressures all contributed to the breakdown of my marriage. It took time to realize that these issues were deeply ingrained in our daily lives, making it difficult for us to sustain the relationship.
Why I Do What I Do
My experiences navigating divorce, raising children in a multicultural family, and overcoming the emotional aftermath of a failed marriage have shaped who I am today. I now dedicate my life to helping other women who are going through similar struggles. I believe that healing is possible, and that divorce doesn’t have to define your future. Through my journey, I’ve discovered that true healing starts when you take control of your mindset and decide how you want to live.
As a coach, I’m here to guide you through the pain, help you navigate the emotions, and empower you to rebuild your life. If you’re ready to move forward and create a life of peace, joy, and purpose, I’m here to help you every step of the way.
